tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1614037743017905260.post3358009837953778633..comments2013-02-11T17:07:37.123-07:00Comments on Pass the Chocolate: Committed by Elizabeth GilbertAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14777243283548102053noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1614037743017905260.post-82827218019890951452012-08-09T05:56:32.433-06:002012-08-09T05:56:32.433-06:00I wasn't planning to read this book but may ac...I wasn't planning to read this book but may actually give it a try after reading your post - which was an interesting read. <br />I've been married 31 years, and dated him for 5 years before we "committed". That being said, through ups and downs as in any relationship, I would do it all over again and marry the same man.<br />I think you need to be friends first and I think you each should retain your own interests as long as you also have many in common, want to be together, spend time together, are committed to each other, put your marriage before your friends and have the same goals.jbcweisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04524124062485185378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1614037743017905260.post-26302255412987774392012-07-09T06:42:41.973-06:002012-07-09T06:42:41.973-06:00I agree. This book is more research-driven, but I ...I agree. This book is more research-driven, but I suppose that was understandable given that in it she's trying to come to terms with marriage. For me (and as you've observed), her family stories were the best! They reminded me of the personal tale that is Eat, Pray, Love :)<br /><br />I enjoyed reading about how the book caused you to reflect. I hope that you get everything that you want :) I must say, I did the same thing during and after reading the book - recall my own thoughts on marriage. Good luck with the rest of the challenge. I look forward to reading your future blog posts. :)ReadingWriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14576884868603183884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1614037743017905260.post-86251372818248261162012-06-28T13:43:25.272-06:002012-06-28T13:43:25.272-06:00Well, what I meant to say is less that I want to u...Well, what I meant to say is less that I want to understand exactly why he wants to do what he wants to do as that I understand the wanting. His goals might not make sense to me and might be very different from mine, but I just want him to HAVE goals. What you're saying, I think, IS actually kind of what I meant to say, when I said that I'll have my me-ness and he'll have his him-ness; we'll be two very different people with very different goals, and I may not understand his very well at all. I just don't want to marry someone and have him just plogging along in whatever old thing while I'm trying to pursue something that really matters to me. <br /><br />So, when I said I want to understand him, that's not to say I expect I'll understand why he loves what he loves or why he enjoys what he enjoys. But I want him to have those things. I don't want him to just melt into his family and home and me, like some of the guys here seem to expect to--and even want to.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14777243283548102053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1614037743017905260.post-84744836388280315332012-06-27T19:53:03.562-06:002012-06-27T19:53:03.562-06:00I'm trying to write a response to this, but I&...I'm trying to write a response to this, but I'm having trouble phrasing it right! So I think I'll try to give more of a summary. You spent several paragraphs saying that you want to understand your husband and his motivations. One thing that surprised me about marriage is that Ken is so much harder to understand than the female friends I've had. I often just shrug my shoulders and tell myself that that's just how he is and I'm not going to get it. I think Mom and Dad might be the same way. There are exceptions, and maybe you'll marry one, but in general men don't communicate like women, and it makes them hard for us to understand. (Ken's not usually hard for me to predict, though. That's not what I'm talking about.)<br /><br />I'm kind of tired right now, so I hope this came across the way I meant it. I don't know if other married couples would agree with my assessment, but I think you may wind up being surprised at how puzzling your husband can be, and how little that really matters.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10038597347405251733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1614037743017905260.post-90417442661108584152012-06-27T16:31:44.271-06:002012-06-27T16:31:44.271-06:00Haha, I know exactly what you mean! Thank you!Haha, I know exactly what you mean! Thank you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14777243283548102053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1614037743017905260.post-92063078780685172022012-06-27T12:16:45.072-06:002012-06-27T12:16:45.072-06:00I'm commenting, because it always bothers me w...I'm commenting, because it always bothers me when people don't recognize that they've read my stuff (Im not looking for appraisal, I just want to know that Im not speaking to deaf ears. Or no ears at all) ANYWAYS, here I am to let you know that I read it, and I always enjoy reading your stuff. :) Your best friend EVER, <br />JoshJoshua Readhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17036798786572451715noreply@blogger.com